Dr. E.C. Fulcher, Jr.

“Do you really want love with your partner to be defined by a day on the calendar—that has nothing to do with human love?”

The Christian feast day, honoring one or two Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine is soon approaching…oh excuse me, I mean Valentine’s Day, the day of “love”.

For anyone with a brain, you have to know that Valentine’s Day isn’t about love nor showing your partner affection—it’s a religious practice. Yea, you go out and buy your generic Hallmark card, $5.99 box of chocolates along with a dozen roses but what does that really mean?

I’ll tell you; Nothing.

However, this article isn’t going to be history lesson about the origins of the Valentine’s Day practice—download Dr. E.C. Fulcher’s book, The Truth about St. Valentine’s Day, to do your own research—but more so on how idiotic it is to put such importance on the day of “love”.

When people first get into a relationship, it’s hot and heavy, but then after a while things start to get cold. Keeping things spicy may be a challenge. The union goes from being about each other, to how their relationship is seen by others.

Instead of learning each other and joining together as one to obtain total peace, couples put stock in a day that has nothing to with someone’s love for them.

Everyone knows that if you forget to buy your boyfriend or girlfriend, especially your girlfriend, a gift on Valentine’s Day, it’ll be hell to pay.

It doesn’t matter if you buy your partner something and/or show them affection every day, if they don’t get a gift on Feb. 14 of their desire, they will be highly upset. They will more than likely call their friends to complain about how their partner doesn’t care about them because on this ONE day they didn’t get what they wanted.

Is that real love and affection? Do you really want love with your partner to be defined by a day on the calendar—that has nothing to do with human love?

I mean think about it, your partner looks at the calendar and sees Valentine’s Day arising, so they go out and fight for the last dibs of Valentine’s Day gifts just to make you feel “special”. When being with them alone should make you feel special. Isn’t it more special and unique to be surprised on a random day with a gift or token of love rather than receiving something because the calendar told your partner to buy you something?

It’s simply silly!

In 2016, BuzzFeed.com asked the BuzzFeed Community about the worst Valentine’s Day gift they’ve ever received. You’d be shocked at some of the responses.

Annabelle Marie, from BuzzFeed’s Facebook said she was dating a guy for about two years and one Valentine’s Day he got her a coupon for chocolates at the local grocery store. “No card, just a coupon. Let’s just say we didn’t last long after that,” she said.

The thought and effort of Marie’s boyfriend didn’t matter. It was the quality of the gift that mattered, so is Valentine’s Day really about love? No!

Catherine Sheeran, from BuzzFeed’s Facebook explained that her partner pointed out different pieces of jewelry in store windows, and he let her know her gift was in the glove box of his car. “I found a receipt for two new tires. I burst into tears. He later let me know he got his last girlfriend an oil change for Valentine’s Day that was not well received either,” Sheeran said.

Now, let’s be serious, tires can cost anywhere from $600 to $1,000. How can anybody be upset at that deal? It’s because she couldn’t take the gift and flash in front of people. So again, is Valentine’s Day really about love? No!

Love doesn’t go by a calendar date or how many expensive gifts you receive. Love is about two people joining together to make each other’s life better, lifting up one another in their weak states.

As Ecclesities 4:9-12 says, “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Love is not substantiated by a day on the calendar. Love is unwavering love for your partner that cannot be broken by people, places, things—or a pagan holiday.

Charlene Mayo